Updated: Feb 8
February - the love month apparently! What and who are you loving?
So far this February we've welcomed Chinese New Year - the year of the Tiger - which is the opposite to my Chinese zodiac sign of the Monkey - I am apparently persuasive, skilful and intelligent and I strive to excel. I love this! I found it fascinating reading about the different calendar systems and the astronomical observations that have defined it. Different cultural practices, ideologies ....
and ofcourse the Winter Olympics in Beijing have started.
Amazing to think 2 years ago we were just hearing about Corona Virus in China - in some ways a life time ago and in others life altering.
I'm loving the fact that there are snowdrops and signs of daffodils in the garden. That we have lighter mornings and a little longer daylight.
Shortly we have the LOVE day- February 14th! - when we look up the origins of St Valentine's Day it's all a bit convoluted but seemingly 'The Feast of Saint Valentine was established by Pope Gelasius I in AD 496 to be celebrated on February 14 in honour of Saint Valentine of Rome, who died on that date in AD 269 - the day became associated with romantic love in the 14th and 15th centuries when notions of courtly love flourished, apparently by association with the "lovebirds" of early spring' ..... phew that's just a summary snippet.
Personally I think of it as a 'Hallmark Day' - an excuse for commercial inflation of red rose, card and chocolate prices. Call me cynical but ....
and don't get me wrong I am always delighted to send / receive / have an excuse to go out for dinner .... but what about all types of love, not just romantic love and what about all year round.
I think it's a good moment to reflect on our relationships
What state is our love in?
Do we love ourselves?
My biggest personal value is love as I believe if we all loved a bit more (the planet, our differences ...) the world would genuinely improve. In my business values love is also high up there - love what we do, who we do it for and with.
The 5 Love Languages book by Gary Chapman is straight talking and really useful in its philosophy.
"Different people with different personalities give and receive love in different ways. By learning to recognise these preferences in yourself and in your loved ones, you can learn to identify the root of your conflicts, connect more profoundly, and truly begin to grow closer".
What is important to you -
Words of affirmation
Acts of service
His teenage book is also worth looking at - helping to love our teens more effectively
and it's interesting doing the 5lovelanguges.com/quizzes.
One relationship I love at TBM and very grateful for, is with our retreat venue The Kingshouse Hotel in Glencoe - in a few weeks time we will be enjoying a roaring fire after some fitness amidst amazing scenery, eating fabulous seasonal produce and hosting workshops in one of my favourite Scottish settings!
If you fancy feeling the love ... jump in the car and experience 3 magical days of coaching.
And ofcourse our amazing clients - we hope you are all feeling the love this month - whatever shape or form that takes :-)